Vestibule of Singledom

I will say that waiting isn't all bad. I've managed to learn who it is God is wanting me to be as a woman with character and a heart for other people. The waiting gets harder when everyone around you is getting called out of line to check out and meet their "one and only". It happens to everyone but sometimes we get the notion its only happening to us and we will not survive in a world of love without someone for us to love.
Announcement: WE WILL SURVIVE. Gloria Gaynor didn't sing those words for nothing! Its inevitable that we as humans can get through a lot of things with a strong can do attitude. He may not be fun at all to get to the point of finding your strength, but man is it o so rewarding when we realized we got through that heaping mess of tears and woe is me lines whined to our friends. I'm guilty of it. Probably in every stage of my life, I wanted to be there for someone in a non platonic way that required me giving of my self in an unselfish manner for as long as my heart could. I started learning I didn't need a boyfriend to be able to give of myself to people who needed it. What is it? Its a listening ear, a shoulder for others to cry on, a night out on the town, a nice meal with friends. Its anything that takes our minds off of OURSELVES, what we WANT, but don't need at that given moment.
Sorry to burst the bubble of selfishness, but when push comes to shove, we should be wanting to be there for others. Don't get me wrong, we need our time to stay nourished, be nourished, get fed, cry our eyes out, and figure out what we're doing next; but the less we worry about what needs aren't being met in our life, we notice the things that we do have already.
I leave you with this. When we doubt what God has promised us in our lives and we keep harping on how we don't have what everyone else has think of how big God is and stop putting him in your box. He exceeds that little box that doesn't comprehend or fathom what he's capable of.
Ecclesiastes 3:11; "He has made EVERYTHING beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God HAS DONE from BEGINNING to END." He's not worried about your outcome cuz its already been created, why should you?
Something to chew on.

Next time: The baby boom among friends. I was going to talk about it on this one, but that'd be too much.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Lost in Laundromat Translation

Tips on using an Italian laundry service. Story all true, formed last Saturday as a series of unfortunate events. Step 1: When using an Italian laundromat make a fool of yourself first by playing it cool when others are standing around waiting on their own personal belongings. Step 2: Get set up in a corner as if you're prepping for a long day of laundering. (laundry-not money, let's be clear!) Step 3: Wait for said people and any extra onlookers to slowly exit and be financially prepared for any extra money to be spent. Step 4: Fake read Italian signs all over the room, completely bypassing the signs above the washers that are in fact ENGLISH INSTRUCTIONS. So when you see a sign that says "Istruzioni per il lavaggio" ,you will understand it reads "washing instructions". You will also see the UK flag representing a "universal" English speaking dialect. But wait! It gets better! Step 5: Walk to the blinking lotto slot to choose your d
Read more

The Romance is Over.

It's been a while since I've posted the likings of a romantic life or whatever you'd call it; but I have since moved back to Florida from Portland as of the end of January this year and the romancing of a new city has finally died. I can say I've had a lot of adventures as a single woman and have greatly enjoyed them. I've had time to contemplate in the singleness and figure out the areas I wanted to work on in myself that are still works-in-progress. I also took the time to not pressure myself with certain things in life because there really is no rush on any of it at the end of the day. The Earth still turns, the sun goes down, the moon comes up and vice versa. Life can get ahead of me sometimes, and I need to stop getting so caught up in what I can't control. Moving back home (deep down I know Florida will always be home) has kind of helped me realize all the things I knew to be important, but it was also a beautiful and painful journey of growing pains th
Read more

Ugo {III} Conclusion

In the words of Italians: Bo. Means I don't know. But fortunate for me, I do know. I just like saying the word. :) Whatever preconceived ideas you have matched up in your head for me and this Ugo character, put them to rest. Nothing is coming of it and I knew this minutes after meeting him and becoming flushed in the face. Cute faces does not make the heart want, only the heart race. In this case, only seeing a guy for the immediate looks grabbed me in, but I did learn he had a gf. Off limits for me. Always. If a guy is looking at me in any way to pursue, or play a game of pawn and knight  and are with someone else, en passant my friend.  En passant. Don't get me wrong. Ugo is very pleasant, easy on the eyes, probably someone I would swoon for after watching a Lizzie McGuire movie mixed with an Olsen Twin movie, and an Amanda Bynes flick. But let's be real, even if I were to meet a man like they do in the movies, it will take me some time
Read more